Email from my Baby's Daddy

I got an email from my baby’s daddy asking me to bring his children to see him. He said that he had some money that his wife did not know about and wanted to know how far I was willing to travel so he could see his children. My response to him was; if you have extra money and want to see your children you need to come home yourself.

The reason for my response is this. This man is in the military and can not see his kids all the time and I understand that. However, that is not an excuse. He may be in the military but he can email his children, or call his children on a regular basis, send birthday gifts or even call on their birthdays. But my children get none of that from their father. However, he can take trips with his wife and other children but can’t come home. Just recently he took a trip with his wife and their children that brought him about 4 hours away from his parents’ house. We didn’t even know this until he posted it on facebook. He could have came home to see his children then, but he chose not to.

Now I am not the baby mama from hell. I do not do things just to make his life a living hell, nor do I talk bad about him in front of my children. So why do I need to bend over backwards for him, when he does nothing at all but pay his child support that is court ordered.

So my question to all you baby daddy’s out there; what are you doing for children to remember you by? When they are grown and look back on their life what will they see? Will they see a father that was there or father with a million and one excuses?